Improving the Parent-child Relationship with Graphology
How we, as humans, bring up a child is sometimes different and sometimes similar to how other species do. Major difference is that we have forgotten to listen to the voice of parenting that comes from within us – it is called Parenting Instinct. It is there in every species, every living being. Let’s improve Parent-child Relationship with the help of Graphology
What is parenting all about? Parenting is raising a child physically, emotionally, mentally, and socially. This is a profession without a manual or any training. We all depend on the advice given to us until our parenting instincts kick in.
Some thoughts from a curious mind could look like :
• Am I a good parent?
• How can I give the best to my child?
• The perfect way of raising a happy child?
• What amount of independence should be given?
Are we, as parents, constantly struggling to ensure :
• Our child behaves well
• They match the expectations of everybody around us
• Gets a healthy meal and eats well
• Getting up on time
• Completes his/her school homework
Think, as a son or daughter, would you like a parent who :
• Is nagging you always for something or the other
• Remains irritated most of the times
• Being dominating or stubborn
• And many such things …
I am sure the answer to all of these is “No!”.
Let us explore 2 traits in Graphology that will help with the Parent-child Relationship:
• Letters that reveal the writer is nagging or unnecessarily stretching arguments are :
The common thing in both the formations is the stretched part. Stretching will make you become more argumentative!
• Formations that reveal the writer is irritated :
Extra unnecessary things like ticks, hooks, dots becoming dashes, etc. are the signs of irritation.
Let us understand what happens when we as a parent nag or remain irritated :
• More you nag, the less they hear. The bond between the parent and the child weakens and the child never likes to hear the same thing again and again.
• We can pour from a jar to a glass, the content of the jar. If we remain irritated, we pass on the irritation to our child and if we are filled with love, we pass on the love to our child.
What do we, as parents, need to do?
We have stopped enjoying parenthood! All of us have become like an obstacle to our own child’s growth. What is best for a child is the parent itself. As parents, we need to understand that we too need to change at every stage. Children need a parent who is a mentor, supporter, nurturer, criticized, and last but not least, someone, whom the child can depend upon.
Few Do’s :
• Understand that every child is different and requires a different upbringing and never compare. Comparison creates irritation and in turn nagging.
• Remain attached to them but that does not mean being possessive. Help them understand that you are there with them. Children should be able to come to you when they need you.
• Identify what are the things that you are struggling with and list them. Do not try to solve all the struggles altogether. Let go of a few and start working on a few and earn to pick your battles!
• Give them choices. Choices give children a chance to speak, also it teaches decision-making.
You can go through our videos on Parenting Tips for more clarification!
Few Don’ts :
• Do not try to be a super parent. Mistakes can be made but recognize your mistakes and don’t repeat them. Don’t forget that we are their role model!
• It is okay not to take any social media parenting groups too seriously. Quit trying to make them a high achiever in each and everything – like Chess, Phonics, Tennis or Guitar, etc. See the hidden potential in your child, and support that.
• Avoid telling them what not to do. Instead, tell them what to do! let them make their own decisions.
Most important thing that you need to remember as a parent, is to Love Yourself! When you start to love yourself more, you feel happier, and in turn develop a stronger relationship with your child.
Want more insights one Parenting? Then, do read our blog, Effective Parenting & GRAPHOLOGY
Want to know more about how we can improve Parent-child Relationship with Graphology? Go through this video-